Now I know this is a term that not a lot of people heard of before, but I can assure that this person lives among your surrounding, and I must say that this kind of diseases is very dangerous. First, let’s start with the definition of narcissism:
Briefly, narcissism is the excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's physical appearance. It first was discovered in late 1898 by Havelock Ellis.
What causes Narcissism?
Narcissism is developed mainly during early childhood and reaches its peak during teenagehood and adulthood, it is caused by childhood abuse or neglect. excessive parental pampering. unrealistic expectations from parents. sexual promiscuity can develop narcissistic behavior (disease).
Does narcissism last forever?
Well, according to healthline.com, These traits, while often deeply entrenched, aren't always permanent. In fact, a 2019 study suggests that narcissistic tendencies naturally tend to decrease with age, yet that doesn’t mean that psychologist’s help isn’t mandatory, you can’t really wait for it to fade away
A narcissistic pervert
A narcissistic pervert is a person that tends to abuse people’s emotions, especially when in a romantic relationship a narcissistic pervert tends to bend people’s morality, push them to the edge and stand aside.
They usually have a clear vision of their victims (sometimes not intentionally), they read their behaviorism and body language, tend to give them what they ‘’lack’’, emotionally mainly, once the victim is hooked enough, they start to absorb them and target their self-esteem: numbering their flaws, belittling them, so that the narcissistic pervert can, somehow, compensate the lack he or she is has or facing. The narcissistic pervert hates generosity, noble sentiments, or any moral qualities, they go to the extent of cutting their victim from their life: friends and family, sometimes even work, so they can have them all for themselves.
PS: sometimes the ‘’pervert’’ isn’t aware of what he or she is doing, but it rarely goes unspoken of after continuous failure.
Bellow the story of Mathilde Cartel:
A story that will shed light on the truth of this type of disease.
(Taken from: Worldcrunch.com)
Mathilde Cartel met her ex-husband on vacation when she was very young. "At first, he was everything I dreamed of. He had created a character that was exactly who I was looking for," she remembers. He was different, spoke little but well, and impressed her by talking about philosophy. She lacked self-esteem, and he put her on a pedestal. After the vacation, he sent her a letter every day. "I was his Mother Theresa. I felt useful, and he made me feel smart," she says. It took two years for Frederic to seduce Mathilde. He cut her from her family, married her, and took a job abroad.
Once his victim was trapped, he revealed his true self. He convinced her that she was nothing without him, he became terribly mean and put her down with hurtful comments such as: "You have a brain, why don't you use it." He insulted her, calling her a "bitch", a "slut," telling her to "shut her trap." When she couldn't take it anymore and talk about leaving him, he threatened to commit suicide with his children and begged her, saying he needed her.
"He brainwashed me. I was just a puppet, and he pulled the strings. I didn't have a mind of my own. I endured without consenting," she says. Everything was her fault, and he never took the blame for anything. He hit her. To outsiders, he made a great impression. People envied this model couple. One day, he crossed a line and took it out on the children.
After 15 years of humiliation and criticism, Mathilde finally had the courage to leave. "I picked up the children at school and fled," she says. It took her years to recover. She wrote a book about it with two other women who went through the same ordeal (I loved a pervert, with Carole Richard and Amélie Rousset, Eyrolles).